I hosted a dinner party last week for American Thanksgiving. It was an intimate affair for 9 close friends. The guest list was eclectic to say the least. Present was my boyfriend (partner?.. we aren’t sure what the title is), the fiancé of a great friend, another friend who’s divorced, a young mother of two who’s partner was out watching football, a couple with a small child and lastly a married couple.
It came to light about 2/3 the way through the meal that they only married people at the table was the same-sex couple. They have been together for over 20 years and got married back in the early 2000′s. Their wedding was a surprise to everyone at the event, other than themselves and the officiant. They chose to get married at their annual New Year’s Eve Party, but didn’t tell anyone because they didn’t want or need gifts or have anyone feel obligated to make it a large affair. They’d been together for 17 years and realized they needed to be married for legal ease in case something happened.
It’s funny how in this day and age, many couples are choosing to start families, merge families and join financial resources without knowing the legal implications. As the married couple above thoughtfully informed everyone, common-law and married are not synonymous.